Finding answers shouldn't be harder
For caregivers in the middle of it all — juggling aging parents, their own kids, and a life that didn't stop to ask permission. Practical guidance and honest writing, when you actually need it.
How to Get Your Parent's Affairs in Order (Before It's a Crisis)
A practical, compassionate guide to preparing for aging, decline, and everything in between — before you're forced to act without a map.
For caregivers in the middle of it all
Memory, behavior, or day-to-day abilities are shifting. You're not sure what it means or what to do next.
Costs are adding up. Medicaid, benefits, and long-term care options are confusing. You want to understand your options without the sales pitch.
Sharing wisdom from around the room
The things caregivers say when they finally find the right room to say them. Read the stories behind the guidance on our Substack — personal, honest, and written for people in the middle of it. Read on Substack →
“The first 72 hours after a crisis, you don't need inspiration. You need a checklist.”
“Grief doesn't wait for the funeral. It starts the day you notice something's wrong.”
“Your siblings aren't the enemy. The system is. But you still have to work with both.”
When you're in the middle of a caregiving situation, it's hard to know where to start — or even what questions to ask. Ellen is a knowledgeable guide who can help you get oriented, think through your options, and figure out what to look into next. She's not a substitute for professional advice, but she knows how to help you find your footing.
You
My mom just got diagnosed with early-stage dementia. I don't know where to start.
Ellen
I'm sorry — that's a lot to hold. First, take a breath. You don't have to do everything today. Here are three things that matter most in the first few weeks: get the diagnosis in writing, talk to her doctor about a care plan, and if she's still driving, we should talk about that soon. Want to start with one of these?